How to shift into ‘happy’ gear

How to shift into ‘happy’ gear

Three empowering mindcare rituals to transform your life

Published: 10.16.2020

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”

– Wayne Dyer

It goes without saying that your mind is the most powerful tool in your arsenal. The way you perceive the world around you becomes your reality. It isn’t magic; it’s simply the fact that your perspective dictates how you weigh and extrapolate particular situations. 

Your mind is constantly at work navigating the world around you, shaping not only how you interact with the world, but how the world interacts with you.

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You may have heard of the blue car theory, also known as the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon. The blue car theory is known as a frequency bias, meaning when you notice something for the first time – be it a word, a name, a style of cooking, or anything else – you seem to notice that thing appear everywhere you look. The theory is that when you notice something for the first time, your mind continues to seek out similar patterns. There may not be any magic or coincidence at play, but the power of our mind sure makes it seem like it – and that means something. Our minds play a powerful role in how we perceive reality.

The Baader-Meinhof phenomenon can play a pretty powerful role in your day to day life. Have you ever noticed how on those days when you wake up on the wrong side of the bed or get a piece of bad news in the morning or have a bad morning commute, the rest of your day tends to follow suit? That’s a perfect example of the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon at work. The good news is this same scenario also applies when something good occurs. 

This phenomenon is natural, and by having perspectives and beliefs in something, you have a built in roadmap, guiding you through life and giving you a sense of comfort, control, and empowerment. Beliefs and values are not only positive, but they are vital for moving through life.

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The problem arises when the media uses frequency biases to warp your perspective, reminding you of things you may need, how you should dress, what furniture you should buy, even how you should feel when you’re out for coffee with friends. 

The good news is that perspective is malleable. Just as the media can warp your perspective to fit their needs, you can shift your own perspective to reflect the world in which you wish to live in. This doesn’t mean that simply by shifting your perspective you are immune to negative events that may occur in your life, but it means that you can adjust the lens in which you view all events, people, places, and things in. Here are three mindcare rituals to use to start to shift your perspective today.


Three empowering mindcare rituals:


1. Redefine your own definition of beautiful:

Society constantly bombards you with disempowering and toxic standards of what is considered beautiful – even more so now with endless filtering and photoshopping apps anyone can access on their phones to make themselves look like impossible, cartoon versions of themselves. 

Start to practice reminding yourself on a daily basis that you are what is beautiful, and that your opinion of yourself is the only one that matters. 

Try writing empowering messages on your mirror or using affirmations on a daily basis to begin to shift your perspective away from toxic beauty standards to your own. 

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2. Three things:

It’s so easy to get lost in a spiral of judgement and comparison while looking at other people’s lives. It’s natural to compare your own life to others, but constantly fixating on all of the things you don’t have or all of the mistakes you’ve made will shape a negative perspective of your reality.

This is where three things come into play. Write or say out loud three things that you really and truly are grateful for every morning – and if you like – every night too. By reminding yourself of your own blessings, it begins to shift the way you view your current situation and subconsciously draws more things to be grateful for to your attention. 


3. Body scans:

Life isn’t always easy (if ever) and stress and anxiety are par for the course. The problem is these emotions can direct the course of your day by drawing your attention to focus on more things that may cause you stress and anxiety. This doesn’t mean your mind is against you, it’s just doing what it believes it should by increasing awareness of a perspective. 

A nourishing way of combating these emotions and taking back control of your perspective is through making body scanning a part of your morning ritual. Body scanning can be done through a visualization or guided imagery practice that is similar to meditation, but more mentally active. 

When you wake up, find a warm, comfortable place to lie down, then start by focusing on your breath. When you’re ready, slowly scan your body from head to toe, looking for areas where the stress and anxiety may be hiding out. After you’ve located the tension, take a moment to examine it, uncover the source, acknowledge the emotions, then when you’re ready, imagine gently pulling the tension from your body and letting it drift away. Once you’ve scanned your whole body, you can carry on with your day with a little less stress, anxiety, and tension than when you first woke up. Do this every morning for long term benefits.

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This is your life and you may not be able to control everything life throws at you, but you get to choose how you deal with it, how you perceive it, and how you move through it. And remember, you don’t always have to be trying, working, and focusing on growing.

Rest is necessary, setbacks are inevitable, and things will absolutely not go according to plan all the time, so make your mindcare a priority and develop an intuitive relationship with yourself to help guide you through your journey. You’ve got this – and always feel free to reach out, because we’ve got you.

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Written by Ash DePass | STUNN Cofounder

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