How to boost your confidence

How to boost your confidence

Three tips to transform your mindset and take your power back

Published: 09.17.2020

There are so many beauty products out there that promise miraculous results with little to no effort – instant transformation and gratification sounds great, but the problem with these types of promises is that they spur unrealistic expectations and make you feel like a failure when they don’t work – because there really is no such thing as instant when it comes to transformation.

When your skin breaks out, or you wake up with dark circles under your eyes, or even when you start to notice new fine lines creeping their way across your forehead, it can create a sense of panic. You set out to find products and treatments to fix these problems (and fast!), but the real problem lies far deeper than any topical product or surface treatment can reach. These quick, cheap, and easy beauty “solutions” may actually be creating more damage than what they promise to fix.

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To top it all off, the images many of these “quick” and “easy” beauty products portray are of a specific, flawless kind of beauty (which has been tweaked and edited beyond recognition). This further perpetuates a toxic standard of what beautiful has to look like. It affirms that even if the products work and you are able to remove a few blemishes, dark circles, and wrinkles – you’re still not good enough.

This messaging sets you up to take a dangerously critical look at yourself – encouraging you to pick out all of the ways in which you don’t measure up to these altered images (and videos). They then promise to change you faster and cheaper than anyone else. You give it a try, and when the unrealistic expectations are not reached, you are bombarded with more toxic messages and more toxic solutions that “really” work. Before you know it, you’ve moved beyond the vicious cycle into a full blown mental wellness crisis.

These toxic ideals bleed into your psyche and create a sense of normalcy around feeling ugly, less than, and unworthy. What’s worse is that the products that ride the backs of these ideals are only offering surface solutions, when the area that truly needs nourishment is within.

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Stress, anxiety, fatigue, and even shame affect your skin. So while you’re confidence takes a hit every time you come across an ad telling you how you should look or an overly edited image on Instagram showing you what beautiful “really” looks like, your cortisol levels spike and your anxiety increases, causing more damage to your skin and your cells than any serum, concealer, or lipstick could ever dream of helping.


Maybe it’s time to take a step back and save yourself (and your mental health) from the throes of the media. We’ve identified three tools you can start to use to empower you to redefine your own definition of beautiful, actively nourish your mental wellbeing, and take your own power back. 


How to boost your confidence and take your power back:


1. Make Sleep a Priority :

We’ve harped on this one before, and you might be asking yourself “what does sleep have to do with boosting my confidence?”. The truth is, when you’re well rested you’re more likely to focus on the positives in your life. Your mind, body, and soul are nourished and you have more energy to take on the day. When you’re feeling productive it spurs the confidence necessary to look the other way when people try to tell you you’re not good enough. 

Beyond those benefits, quality sleep does wonders for your skin and that healthy glow doesn’t hurt when you look in the mirror to remind yourself that ‘yes, I am beautiful!’.

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2. Habitualized Affirmations:

Affirmations are a powerful way to actively shift your perspective. A simple method to incorporate affirmations into your daily routine is to craft an ‘I am’ statement that feels equal parts empowering and scary, then commit to saying it every day for a minimum of 30 days. This will plant the seeds necessary to truly transform your belief around your own beauty. 

You may have tried affirmations in the past to no avail, and like most things, if you don’t commit to it, it won’t have a lasting effect. This is why committing to a minimum of 30 days is key. Additionally, you want your affirmations to push you outside your comfort zone, but not so far that it feels like a lie. The goal is to create an affirmation that balances where you are now and where you want to be.


3. Strut it Out: 

So much of what fuels your confidence is subconscious. The way you feel in your body and the way other people respond to you subconsciously affect the way you feel about yourself. By physically changing the way you walk, you will psychologically change the way you feel in your body as well as the way other people respond to you. 

Keep your shoulders back, your gaze forward, and don’t be afraid to take up a bit of space. For an added benefit, allow yourself to smile a little bit. The act of smiling will further plant the seeds of confidence. It may feel odd at first, but stick to it and before long, walking with confidence will become second nature.

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These tips are just the tip of the iceberg. Unlearning toxic ideals and redefining an empowering definition of beautiful is not any easy task, and the temptation to crawl back into that vicious cycle – for its ease and social acceptability – will be strong. If you do crawl back and find yourself in a self loathing spiral, that is okay. Just take a minute to remind yourself of your own beauty and greatness, then get back at it. 

One last thing… Transformation takes time, and transforming your mindset to be able to defy toxic societal beauty standards is not easy – but you’ve got this, and we’re here for you.

STUNN Collective Ash DePass smiling at the camera exists to empower you with innovative supplements that directly nourish your microbiome to support stress hormones and skin health, so you can harness your own unique beauty and potential, because we believe every woman deserves to feel better, live greater, and dream bigger. 

Written by Ash DePass | STUNN Cofounder

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