EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OKAY
How to reduce your fear and anxiety right now.
Raise your hand if you’re feeling a wee bit anxious these days – same. It is an exceptionally stressful and uncertain time right now, and in times like these, the absolute most important thing you can do is to take care of your mental wellbeing.
STUNN is here to empower you with tangible products, tools, practices, and a support system to strengthen your mental wellbeing. However, I want to make it very clear that I’m not writing this to tell you that you need to buy something. That’s not fair or empowering. I am writing this because I feel it’s my responsibility to step up and provide support beyond our products.
Fear is a product of uncertainty, and fear of the unknown leads to anxiety. Anxiety, our good old friend, loves to wreak havoc on us – I am not going to get into the damage anxiety and stress cause on our bodies right now because the last thing you need is more bad news.
So, I am going to focus on the good news.
As wild and out of control as everything feels around you, you do have control of your own mindset and perspective. You’ve more than likely heard this before, and you might find it a bit grating to hear right now, especially when your stress levels are through the roof.
I know shifting your mind-set isn’t easy, and not every technique works for everyone, but there definitely is something for everyone. That said, I am going to share three huge pieces of advice, and a couple practices for you to try.
1) TURN THE DAMN THING OFF
This is the most hard and fast technique available to you, which I promise, if done in totality, will reduce your anxiety. Turn off the news and tune out the social media accounts that are blasting those things that get your hackles up. Stop searching for updates on the internet, and ask your friends and family to not discuss fear-based topics with you.
This may sound easier said than done.
First, and trust me when I say this – you won’t be missing anything if you stop watching the news or hunting for updates online. If there is anything dire or important happening that you need to know about, you will find out from your loved ones first.
Second, you may not want to give up social media or unfollow friends or mentors because of what they’re posting – that’s fair. The good news is Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook to allow you to mute their accounts, so you don’t see their posts and updates. They won’t know you did it, and you can keep your feed in alignment with what positively fills you up.
Third, and this may be the most challenging – is to ask your family and friends to stop sharing stressful things with you. They may not like it, but you have to put your mental health first, especially if you want to be able to help others.
2) TALK IT OUT
When you bottle up your fears and emotions, they tend to spread and gain momentum until it feels like you’re going to explode – and hey, sometimes you do (metaphorically, of course). There is a healthier option available though, and that is to talk. Whether it be with a councillor, therapist, or trusted loved one, having someone to listen to you, relate to you, or to possibly impart some wisdom on you, is such a major stress reliever. Getting your fears out of your head gives you a chance to process and release them.
The key is to identify people in your life who are in a position to support you. If you don’t have someone in your personal life you can reach out to, reach out to a professional – or honestly, reach out to me! I have grown through depression, anxiety, and obsessive compulsive disorder and made it out the other side. No, I am by no means a professional, but I might just be someone who gets it, someone who will listen and sympathize. So text or call me if you need someone – I will provide my contact information at the bottom of this post.
3) BUILD A SUPPORT SYSTEM
It may not be the best time to physically connect with people, but luckily for us, almost everything can be done online. You can FaceTime with people you love, you can connect with friends online, and you can join digital communities, like ours, whose mission is to provide you with love, inspiration, and support.
Surrounding yourself with a community of positive, uplifting people is always important, and it is crucial in times like these. Connecting with people who plant seeds of hope and inspiration will help you keep your mindset positive, and provide you with a support system when you need it most.
And, let’s be honest. We all need some support right now.
Beyond these three pillars of support, here are a list of things to try to aid in releasing your anxiety. If you want more info or guidance on any of these, feel free to reach out to me directly.
- Meditating – Set aside 5-20 minutes to focus on your breath, grounding yourself in the present moment. I prefer to listen to Tibetan bowl music, but you can use a guided meditation or silence.
- Journaling – Get it all off your chest, write down all the stuff that is bugging you, then see if you can end it on a positive note.
- Mantras and Affirmations – Find an empowering statement and repeat it out loud or to yourself whenever you feel anxiety coming on. Three mantras I’ve used are ‘I release all fear and doubt’, ‘I am whole and healthy’ and ‘I am here and I am happy’
- Exercise – If you can, I recommend going for a run or walk in nature. If you’re stuck inside, there are thousands of great Youtube videos that offer all different kinds of workouts from body-weight training, to yoga, to HIIT to tai chi to ballet barre. Whatever type of exercise interests you, do it.
- Nutrition – We created STUNN because we know the value in taking care of our mind, body, and skin from the inside out through nutrition. So, whether you choose to seek that through supplements or not, I recommend making great nutrition a priority to help with your state of mind and your overall health.
- Self-care – Make ‘treating’ yourself a priority, whether it’s reading or listening to great books, taking a long bath, cooking, baking, watching a great movie, sleeping in, or playing cards – whatever it is, do as much of it as you can. Remind yourself that you deserve this.
To close this off, I want to ask you this:
In this exact moment, right here as you’re reading this sentence, do you have anything to be afraid of? Are you being chased by a dinosaur, is there some cataclysmic catastrophe directly affecting you at this exact moment?
Remember, fear is a product of uncertainty. You do not know what tomorrow will bring, nobody does. Who is to say it will be bad? And even if it is, worrying about it now is only prolonging your stress.
So, until that dinosaur is nipping at your heels, let the fear go and trust that your future self will know how to handle it when it comes. Give yourself some credit, you’ve made it this far, and trust that you’ll be able to handle whatever life throws at you.
Now, I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again – reach out to me personally if you need someone to talk to. Right now more than ever, I am here for you. You can text, call, or email me at any time. You can also join our community on Facebook, for daily inspiration and empowerment.