Awareness Challenge: Week FOUR
Let’s be honest we all judge. We may consider ourselves non-judgemental, but deciding between lemon-ginger and blueberry-lime Kombocha is a judgement. A lot of judgement is necessary, our judgement helps us define our tastes and make important decisions in daily life.
Where judgement veers into the unnecessary and becomes damaging is when we lose control of our thoughts, blurring the line between decision making and cruelty. When we find ourselves critically judging someone’s appearance, what we are trying to do instinctually is ascertain our place in the world, by deciding who is lesser than us and who is better than us.
The problem is, contrary to historical hierarchy, we are all made up of the same basic material; molecules, atoms, neutrons and electrons. No, we are not all born with the same advantages and disadvantages, but we’re all born with our own nuances and complexities, with our own dreams and desires. We don’t all have to agree with each other, or like each other, but if we can take a step back and respect that we’re all in this thing we call life together, doing the best we can with what we’ve got, then we can ease up on this need to pass harsh judgements.
When you pass a negative judgement towards someone based on superficial information, it only serves to reaffirm your own insecurities and limiting beliefs. By believing these judgements you are disempowering yourself. You may look at someone and think ‘boy are they ugly’ because in truth, you’re afraid that you are ugly. The same can be said for someone who you believe is more beautiful than you. You are confining yourself to a negative belief system.
Instead, practice letting go of judgement, and forgiving yourself when it pops up. Remind yourself that everyone is just doing the best they can with what they’ve got because we’re all living complex, intricate existences that may look vastly different on the outside than they do on the inside.
Finally, commit to keeping your eyes on your own paper, and remember that you’ve got this! It doesn’t matter what other people are doing, just live in that loving respect because we’re all in this together.
Giving up negative judgement entirely is undoubtedly a life-long commitment. That, fortunately, is not what we’re challenging you to do this week. This week is about awareness of judgement, and paying attention to how you see the world and the people in it from a judgemental perspective.
- Throughout the day, pay attention to the judgement that flutters in and out, then at the end of the day, take a moment to reflect on three moments where you negatively judged a person, place, or situation. This could be anything from thinking someone has an annoying voice, to wishing you could trade careers with someone, or criticizing the wallpaper in your friends house.
- Once you’ve identified those three judgements, write them down in your journal one at a time, followed by the sentence: ‘I forgive myself for these thoughts, we’re both doing the best we can’. You can make the sentence your own, as long as it incorporates forgiving and empowering yourself without diminishing the other person.
- Once you’ve identified your word or phrase and re-written it with its transformative counterpart, commit to saying it out loud three times in the mirror every morning after you’ve meditated and before you brush your teeth. You can also write it on your bathroom mirror or on a post-it and stick it on your mirror for an extra reminder.
Time Commitment: 5 Minutes
The amount of time spent on this isn’t the important part. What is important is reflecting and acknowledging moments where you know you could have done better in terms of judgement. If you want to spend an hour on it, by all means, but as long as you try to reflect on three moments you’re on track.
This activity was designed to come out organically after you’ve completed your journaling practice. Once you’ve released all of your thoughts, take a moment to reflect on your judgements that day and write them down, then let them go.
Practice awareness throughout your day. Be aware of when your judgemental thoughts pop-up, but in turn, try not to judge yourself in those moments either – just remain aware. At the end of your day, after your journaling session take a few minutes to reflect on those moments, write them down, and lovingly release them.
- Pay attention to your judgemental thoughts throughout the day.
- Once you’ve finished your nightly journal session, reflect on three moments of negative judgement from the day and write them down.
- After each judgement write the following (or your own version of it): I forgive myself for these thoughts, we’re both doing the best we can.
Then you’re done. You’ve released those judgements and are ready to head off to sleep. The long term goal is to get to a place where those positive thoughts replace the judgemental thoughts before they even come up, but like all things, that will take time. So, in the meantime, be kind to yourself. You’ve got this!
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